All of your emotional reasons start to come up.
There’s the sense of letting others down which leads to a feeling of obligation or guilt.
There’s the sense of having wasted all that effort of what you’ve previously built – the attachment and sentimentality.
There’s fear of the space left behind – the scarcity mindset, the uncertainty about the future including income.
But there are also things that may not align with your values, and which generate a general sense of discomfort.
There’s the sense of ‘who will I be if I stop doing that?’
If you are feeling any of these things very viscerally, ask yourself – are they serving you and your business?
Are they good enough reasons to hang on?
What is the cost of hanging on versus letting go?
These are some important questions to ask yourself or to work through with your coach if you have one. I encourage you to be kind and gentle with yourself, to be compassionate, and reflective.
Right now, think of all the other times in your life when you held onto things that didn’t serve you. The relationships that were unhealthy, the job that was unsatisfying, the tasks that you felt obliged to do.
What happened when you let those go? When you closed that door, which door opened for you?
What were the lessons learned?
I would like to share a little story about this.
When I moved from Perth to Mossy Point, I started out as a Personal Trainer and Bellydance teacher in my local area. I didn’t want big boot camps, I wanted small, intimate classes where we could focus on technique. I ran three classes per week, and a couple more in the busier summer months.
After 3 years of this, I didn’t have enough clients for a full-time income, and I realised that juggling a business coaching/consulting role with these PT and dance classes was pulling me in different directions and sapping my energy. I was spread thin, and not bringing enough energy to anything, consequently, I felt like I wasn’t doing a good job at anything.
BUT I had these loyal PT and dance clients! But we had a wonderful connection! But it was giving them value! But I was serving the community! But it was fun! But it was giving me exercise too! But what if I couldn’t make up that bit of income! (And let’s face it – it was only a bit of income). Who will I be if I’m no longer the belly dance teacher?
As you can see there was a surprising amount of emotion tied up in this. I had a strong urge to let this go to pave the way for better opportunities, but a fear of letting go. There was a sense of losing my identity in the community.
But deep down I knew that my future was in another direction. I knew that the existing way of being didn’t align with my passions, my vision and my values.
My indecision and hanging onto what was no longer serving me was becoming an ongoing, low-level stress that was eroding my energy, enthusiasm and creativity.
One of my strongest values was showing up with energy and delivering an exceptional service.
Think about that for a moment – you can only really show up like that if you are fully invested in what you’re doing. I was feeling very inauthentic because I couldn’t show up, and that was actually my tipping point.
In other words, my decision was about two key things – living in alignment with my purpose and delivering exceptional customer service.
It was much easier then, to let the classes go. When I did this, everything changed. Relief rushed in to fill the space, and I felt inspired again. I was flooded with insights, creativity and energy for my next venture, which ended up becoming a 6-figure coaching business.
Hindsight is a fabulous thing. I can see now that if I’d been let go earlier, I would have still had that short period of uncertainty and fear, but I would have reached my goals sooner and felt more fulfilled and less anxious about money.
I wish I had used a process to examine and evaluate my business, and then execute my decision with full clarity and confidence, like the one I’m describing here.
This is why stepping out of the emotional stuff and looking at the facts, as I described earlier, is so important.
It gives you the chance to explore all of your logical and emotional reasons for your current activities and decide how you will go forward, consciously and intentionally.