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Are you struggling with confidence in your coaching business or even just generally in your life? I’d love to share some powerful concepts on what you must do to be more confident, from the work of master coach Dan Sullivan and other experts in the coaching field.
Confidence is not an innate trait but rather a quality that can be developed and strengthened.
Today we are going to delve into some powerful concepts shared by master coach Dan Sullivan and other experts in the coaching field. By understanding the ingredients of confidence and implementing the strategies we talk about, you can unlock your inner power and become more confident in your business and personal endeavours.
Listening to coach Dan Sullivan recently, I heard a very powerful concept that summarises what you need to do to be more confident.
Firstly, don’t just expect that you can be confident before you start your business or a new venture. Some people are naturally confident, but there are two conditions that must occur in order to become confident.
What are those ingredients? Commitment and courage. These qualities work in tandem to create a solid foundation for your confidence journey. Let’s explore each of these elements in more detail.
True confidence begins with a deep commitment to your ideas, goals, and personal growth. By committing to your vision, you demonstrate a willingness to try new things and persist in the face of obstacles.
Commitment means committing to your idea, to try new things, and to persist whether you fail or succeed along the way.
Without commitment, you won’t persist long enough to truly experience and go through the journey of developing something new and learning new skills, so you won’t understand it, and therefore may not become confident.
To unleash your inner power, learn how to cultivate commitment and embrace the determination required to navigate the challenges that come your way.
I think that one way to do this is to leverage the Be, Do, Have model created by spiritual guru Ram Dass.
The model explains that most people think that the more they do the more they will have and the happier they will be. The issue with this is that it’s a carrot-and-stick model, which means you will only be happy when you do enough to have enough. Meantime, your self-esteem is linked to the amount of work you do which leaves you at risk of overwork, exhaustion and burnout.
The secret to being happy isn’t having more things or doing too much. It’s about who you are as a person. This is clearly a mindset exercise.
To build commitment to your business following the Be, Do, Have model, you would embrace and embody the traits of someone who is already successful in business. For example, you would back yourself. You would be decisive and trust your decisions. You know that the right person is out there to be your client and you are seeking them to give them the help and support they need.
When you embrace this mindset and live and breathe the successful version of yourself, you are essentially going ‘all in’ and committing to your future endeavour.
That leads to the second ingredient – courage.
Courage is required to commit. They go hand in hand. You need courage to put yourself out there, be wrong, and fail.
When you are committed and have courage, you work through the teething problems to get a result.
And part of that result is confidence.
Confidence isn’t the thing you start with, it’s the reward and outcome of having commitment and courage.
Courage is the force that propels you to take risks and step outside your comfort zone. It is the willingness to put yourself out there, accept the possibility of failure, and learn from your mistakes.
By embracing courage, you develop resilience and expand your capabilities. You become strong because you tried and learned, and you realised that you can do this no matter what the outcome. That means you become determined can persist, and face setbacks more easily.
The key to becoming courageous is to develop strategies to overcome fear and tap into your inner strength, which enables you to face challenges head-on and grow as a result.
One simple way to do this is to set stretch goals. I talked about these in an earlier podcast – effectively it means stretching yourself outside your comfort zone to do things that feel harder and uncomfortable.
This is an incredible growth catalyst and accelerator!
Right at the start of this podcast, I said that confidence is not something you have from the start; it is a reward that emerges from your commitment and courage.
As you use commitment and courage to persist in your business ventures and embrace the challenges that arise, you gain incredible wisdom along the way that creates confidence.
You develop a deeper understanding of your industry and new skills, and you learn how to overcome obstacles. With each step forward, you strengthen your confidence and reinforce your belief in yourself and your abilities.
Then you get to enjoy the transformative power of confidence and the impact it can have on your business and personal life, to do bigger and better things.
Confidence is a journey that requires commitment, courage, and a growth-oriented mindset.
By cultivating these qualities, you can unleash your inner power and become more confident in your coaching business and beyond.
The Be, Do, Have Model and Stretch Goals are two strategies you can use to help you on the journey to becoming more confident.
Remember that confidence is not a destination but an ongoing process of growth and self-discovery.
Embrace the ingredients of confidence, face challenges with determination and resilience, and watch as your confidence blossoms, paving the way for success and fulfilment in all areas of your life.
Understanding who you are and what you need will allow your business to thrive! If you’re truly ready to break old habits and get out of the rut I encourage you to check out the Habitology membership.
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© 2024 Melanie White